5 easy techniques for being a more charismatic leader
Being charismatic is important in any job—but when you’re working in hospitality, it might just be what gets you promoted. And while many people believe that charisma is something you’re born with, that’s actually not the case. In fact, three researchers from the University of Lausanne found that anyone can be taught to be more charismatic.
Here are the five techniques you can use to become a better leader—instantly.
1. Become a More Effective Speaker
To improve your communication skills, use what you learned in English class: metaphors, similes, and anecdotes. For example, rather than saying, “I know we’re all tired, but let’s rally for the last night of the cruise,” you could say, “We’re on mile 20 of the marathon. I know that if we try hard and find our last reserves of energy, we’ll finish strong for this last night!” These devices make your messages far more interesting, engaging and memorable. As a result, you’ll be more persuasive.
2. Be Passionate
Think of famously charismatic people, like Martin Luther King Jr., Gandhi and Mother Teresa. One thing they all share? Passion. To inspire and motivate others, you need to demonstrate powerful emotions. The trick is choosing the suitable times to do so. Maybe you’re discussing your six-month goals with your supervisor. In this case, showing enthusiasm, determination, and conviction would be very appropriate. However, if your team is experiencing a crisis, it would be better to remain calm and unemotional.
3. Ask Questions
Don’t assume that asking questions will make you look ignorant or unintelligent. On the contrary, asking questions not only shows you’re engaged, it also allows you to become more knowledgeable and makes you a more active member of the conversation. In general, we remember who guided the discussion. By asking lots of questions, you’ll get to decide the topics—which will give your co-workers the impression that you had center stage.
4. Show Confidence
Confidence is a key part of charisma. When you seem like you’re collected and sure of yourself, those who feel uncertain or anxious will gladly follow you. To seem more confident, cut out phrases that express doubt, such as, “I think,” “I believe,” “I expect,” and so on. This change has a huge impact; after all, compare the statement, “It’ll be a great experience,” with the much weaker, “I think it’ll be a great experience.” Furthermore, try to eliminate negativity from your conversations, as people tend to associate complaining with insecurity. Lastly, use powerful body language: Sit or stand up straight, push your shoulders back, make frequent eye contact and take up more space.
5. Relate to Others
Charismatic people are also very likeable. This is key, because if you’re a forceful leader but you don’t have an appealing personality, it’ll be easy for your colleagues to resent you. Of course, it’s pretty difficult to just decide to be likeable. Here’s what you can do: Empathize with others. When you make an effort to relate to your coworkers, they’ll feel like you “get” them—which will make them like you more. Frequently picture yourself in other’s situations and imagine what you’d do.